[Author’s
note: This article is designed to introduce the topic of transgender people to those who don't understand why someone would want to change their gender. I also add a few of my thoughts on the topic of gender. I have many more related articles in the works, so check back in the next few weeks, more interesting content is on the way.]
Boys are
more aggressive and less social than girls.
Girls are more nurturing,
compassionate, and caring than boys.
Right?
Wrong.
As a
society, we often talk about the differences between boys and girls, men and
women. Inevitably, someone says boys are one way and girls are another.
I have
no doubt there are meaningful differences between the average personalities of
men and women — but there are so many exceptions.
I know lots of men who are very
compassionate and caring.
I know some women who have difficulty controlling
their anger, a trait often associated with men.
It is overly simplistic and
misleading to say all men are one way and all women are another. It just isn’t
true.
When we
discuss and research gender we should always have these exceptions in mind.
Friends and
family often ask, “Is it a boy or is it a girl?” when they hear a new baby is
on the way.
Based on this information, they start making all kinds of
assumptions about a person that hasn’t even been born.
If an assumption turns
out to be true, it’s seen as proof of the differences between boys and girls.
If a prediction is proven false, it’s ignored.
Society
generally believes that gender is determined by whether someone is born male or
female.
Traits such as a person’s genitals or hormones that are used to label
them as a boy or girl describe their biological sex.
Everyone has
a list of personality traits, interests, and behaviors they understand as being boy
things or girl things. Not everyone’s lists are identical, but there is often considerable
overlap between people’s lists within a given society.
But gender
isn’t determined by whether you are born male or female, it’s determined by
whether you feel male or female.
Most boys look at their list of boy and
girl things and feel the boy list matches them better. Most girls feel the girl
list fits them better.
However, some
boys feel the girl list is a better description of who they are. And some girls
are more comfortable with the things in the boy list.
How someone feels about their gender is
known as their gender identity.
When someone’s gender identity matches their
biological sex, they’re known as cis-gender. People whose biological sex doesn't match their gender identity are known as trans-gender.
Decker Moss
was born female, but identifies as male. Decker gave a
Ted Talk explaining his experiences in 2013.
Rikki
Arundel was born male, but identifies as female. Rikki gave a Ted Talk explaining
her thoughts on gender earlier this year.
Many
transgender people feel depressed because others don’t accept them for who they
are.
I will discuss the mental health problems transgender people experience in my next article.
